i have had mostly a well protected childhood with sisters playing a major role in shaping character. lot of trust, faith and love nurturing our relationships. i thank god for giving me such a wonderful family.
after marraige to the man i loved, i moved in with him to chennai in 2000 july. had a dream life for so long.. loved chennai, got good neighbours, got a good school for my son to study in, also bought a new house.. could anyone ask for more?
in the flat that i moved in, we are facing a major problem: lack of basic civic amenities like underground drainage system and to top it, there is a lack of an association of owners of flats to address this issue. in one word, there is no concern. being a well - educated, socially aware person, this was not digestable for me.
before i bought the flat, i was aware of the lack of drainage, but i thought that with people getting together, we could sit together and sort all these issues.. and moreover, many parts of the city do not really have it and still able to manage it.
what awaited me was a rude shock in the next few months. i took the initiative to get people together and look for ways to tackle it. initially i arranged the meetings at my place, but none was willing to come unless called twice or thrice. i still gave them a boost to their egos, by giving them invitations more than once or twice. meetings happened - not once 3 times. the third time, we were supposed to pay a certain amount a month so that we could manage everything properly. out of four, 2 flats did not pay.. and i was shocked as it was all agreed upon in the meeting. i went one day to find out why.. and the answer is : u've taken the initiative, so solve the following problems and take the money! it was as though the money was for my personal use!
i went into a tizzy! i just said sorry that i cannot do nor can i manage the show.. so please take over reigns and left the place. but it gave me a lesson of my life. : not everybody is bothered about common welfare.. all they are concerned about is their own selfish bargains. i need to be choosy when talking to people.
i have a neighbour named Naveen and his wife Priya, who i got friendly with, as i usually do with all. my basis of approach is that we are all human beings, we need to communicate, help and like each other, so that life goes smoothly for all. during my interaction, what i found strange about them is their suspicion on everybody.. instance 1. the builder has not let us do this because probably he has used mud instead of cement to build the flat..
2. our neighbour does not talk because he is probably an informer to the builder
3. our other neighbour talks to the builder mostly to get a share from him etc.
these things didnot bother me much, unless ofcourse it turned against me. now anything that happens bad in the apartment, its all because of me.! why , no rhyme or reason., they would say she was talking to so and so, probably got the work done by them.. afterall they smiled when they talked!
these are small issues but are irritating.
also, this neighbour of mine, since is hyper-suspicious, has threatened me and my family too of dire consequences. his psychotic behaviour is troubling us. if his son is not alright, he will blame us, if the water is contaminated, he blames us, if his maid leaves, he & she (ofcourse) blames us! i regret having had an interaction with them at all. i am in a no-go situation, having committed no fault.
still, the right thing to do is to forgive them..
its what a good man with belief in god does..
believe me its difficult.. i am going through it..
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